Once upon a time, there was a blog called L.I. Budget Bride that told the story of a young woman who was planning a $15,000 Long Island wedding from her new home in Raleigh, N.C.

That blog still exists, but its look, feel and focus are now different. The posts from that blog can still be found within these pages. Just keep scrolling backwards.

Looking to the future, After the Knot will focus on not really being focused. In my three years of marriage, and the two since I stopped writing solely about weddings, I’ve learned that marriage isn’t just about spending a life together, it’s also about creating a life together.

Creating a life encompasses so many things.

It’s turning your first house into a home with all the love that comes with a can of paint and a bookcase with a million extra screws.

It’s getting your first dog and realizing that you’re actually a pretty stellar dog owner, but you’re going to be a nightmare as a parent.

It’s waking up at 5:45 a.m. to go jogging so you can drop down to a healthy weight before making your body a home for a brand new human.

It’s figuring out how to grow food in your own backyard, which is comprised of sand, weeds and ants.

It’s cooking Swiss Chard for the first time ever and realizing that it’s pretty much just like spinach.

It’s overcoming the stress of having only one full time income so that your spouse could take a chance on pursuing their passion or finishing their education.

It’s a journey.

A Little About Me

I’m a 30-something New York native now living in North Carolina’s Triangle with one husband (C), one dog (Bailey) and two cats (Jameson and Puppidawg). I spent the past six years as a local general assignment and public affairs reporter. As of the end of July I will have moved on to the other side of the communications spectrum doing web content writing for a consumer education organization. I still do some freelance writing on the side.

I love domestic things like cooking, gardening and crocheting, but I hate domestic things like folding laundry and cleaning my bathroom.

I’m happiest at the beach and living two hours away is the equivalent of living in Oklahoma. My fridge is filled with grass-fed meats, and produce from local farms, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy a Big Mac.

I’m a hard news nerd and I don’t really care about pop culture. I don’t really care for pretty things. My photos will never be Pinterest quality and I’m OK with that. I’m just happy I’m writing.


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  1. I really don’t understand how $15,000 for a wedding is classed as ‘budget’. That is a huuuuge amount of money, surely? I can’t imagine most of the population of America spend more than that on their weddings, or no one would ever get married, who has that kind of money to blow on one day?

    If you said you only had $1,500 to spend, then THAT would be a budget wedding.

    • I can understand that $15,000 seems like a ton of money to spend on a wedding and to be honest, it is.

      But, when compared to the average costs of a wedding typically held on Long Island, it is in fact a “budget” wedding. My friends’ budgets ranged from $30,000 to $60,000 so comparatively, my wedding is indeed on a budget. Take the typical cost of hosting your wedding at a catering facility. You are looking at $105-$150 per plate without including alcohol. Right there, that’s an average of $19,000 just to FEED your guests. Tack on the cost of a videographer ($1,600), photographer ($1,500), DJ ($1,500) etc. I think you start to see where $15,000 is a “budget” wedding.

      But, like I said, these are typical Long Island costs. Long Island in general is incredibly overpriced, which is why I moved to North Carolina. Now, I can guarantee that the costs would be significantly less if I got married here. I would be getting much more for my money. But, it was more important for me to have friends and family present than to have real flowers vs the crocheted ones I’m making.

      And it is unfortunate, but I’m confident that most Americans spend much more than that on their wedding day. We’re a culture that’s obsessed with glitz and glamor and it shows its face when we get married. If we weren’t then the DIY/budget wedding culture wouldn’t be so popular right now. Recession weddings are a big thing only recently and that’s because Americans were forced to scale back their big day.

      I hope that clarifies things for you a bit. Thanks for your comment!

  2. Wow, you have really opened my eyes to sometyhing I was completely unaware of! When you put it into perspective like that then I can see why your Long Island wedding is classed as ‘budget’! I didn’t know Long Island was a particularly expensive place. Good on you for doing something so brave and different from the norm and trying to keep costs as low as possible.

    Thinking about it, even here in England prices of weddings will vary greatly depending on the location, simply because of the hiked-up costs of venues and caterers etc. at the most popular and expensive locations. It is a bit sad isn’t it? Businesses charge ridiculous amounts because they know they can.

    I hope you have as glitzy and glammy a wedding as you want on your budget, I’m sure you’ll have just as great a day as if you’d had $150,000 to spend! The most important thing is celebrating your marriage with your friends and loved ones. All the best.

  3. Just a thought, but could you not just get friends to take photographs and video it for free? Tat would save a ton of money and result in more ‘action’ shots of the wedding. My sister did this for her wedding, it seems these days everyone has an expensive good quality digital camera.

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