Last month we celebrated our three-year wedding anniversary. It will forever remain the most perfect day in history even if it wasn’t.
Since then I’ve been to quite a few weddings and have had plenty of wedding-related conversations. Sometimes I think about what I would have done different if I could do it all over again.
We had a cheap wedding for a couple of reasons. We thought it was stupid to spend an obscene amount of money on a five-hour party, plain and simple. But truth be told, even if we didn’t think it was stupid to spend an obscene amount of money on a five-hour party, we didn’t have the money to spend.
But, for blogging sake, here are some things I would have spent money on had we had copious amounts of disposable income.
I loved our wedding location, don’t get me wrong. But, I always wanted to get married barefoot in the sand, with the waves crashing at our feet. Logistics are what made this somewhat impossible since a permit to host a wedding on the beach would have been less than our donation to the museum. Though, if we had money, I would have been able to make those logistics work so that everyone could be happy.
We all know my feelings on DJs. I just don’t think they’re worth the money. But, I would hire a band. I love live music. It has an energy that only musicians rocking out on stage can bring. Considering the amount of time that goes into rehearsing and performing, I consider it money well spent.
There is definitely NOTHING wrong with just serving wine and beer at your reception. It saves you a ton of money while still providing an alcoholic beverage for those to enjoy. As much as I like wine, I would have loved an amaretto sour or a Malibu Bay Breeze in my hand on my wedding day. I’m sure C would have been happy with a glass of whiskey as well. And if we would have enjoyed these things, I’m sure our guests would have, too.
I go back and forth on the flowers. Crocheting 100 flowers was a pain in the ass. Assembling them into bouquets was a bigger pain in the ass. I do like the fact that I still have my bouquet and it’s not falling apart. I probably would have still went with crocheted or fabric flowers, but I probably would have purchased them from Etsy and had someone else do the work. It saved me a ton of money, but I lost like 60 hours of my life to those things.
Hiring a Second Shooter
We nixed our second shooter when I quit my job two months before our wedding. We had to save everywhere we could, but looking back, I would have tried to find the money somewhere to pay for this service. You can head over to Kiss My Tulle to read an entire guest post about all of my photography regrets, but this is the only one that would have cost any extra money. A second shooter would have captured moments our primary photographer couldn’t.
No matter what kind of wedding you have, there will always be something that you wish you did differently. While I wish I could spend more money, I have plenty of friends that wished they cut down on theirs. There’s no way to avoid the “I wish I’s” but remember, that so long as you make your marriage the most important priority in your life, your wedding will be perfect, even when it isn’t.