Girls Who Rock

I know the ladies in my bridal party know how much I love them and how much I appreciate everything they did for me during the planning of my wedding.

But sometimes I want to reach out and make sure the REALLY know how much I love them.

Growing up, I wasn’t popular or well liked. I had few friends I could count on and trust. Many teased me to my face and behind my back.

But, as I grew up I began to acquire a group of really awesome people in my life. So many, in fact, that if I had asked them all to be in my wedding, I’d have a much bigger group. I’m so incredibly thankful for this. We’ve had our drama, breakdowns and annoyances, but overall, I have some really awesome ladies in my life.

Even those that weren’t in my wedding played a major roll. They officiated, read poems and set up our ceremony site to make it comfortable for our guests. Even though they didn’t have a “title” they were still there to help where ever needed. For that, I’m extra thankful.

(If you’re wondering why I didn’t include some of these women in my bridal party, it was mainly because of logistics. With two girls getting married in the same year, it would be unfair to our friends to ask them to do double bridesmaid duty. We decided to split the group  and because my friends are AWESOME and not catty bitches, it worked out really well.)

My fantastic bridal party. I am so lucky to have such amazing women by my side.

My bridesmaids banded together and threw me an awesome bridal shower and bachelorette party and wanted to do so much more than I would let them.

And most importantly, they did this all without drama.

While most bridesmaids know well enough not to tell a bride there is bridesmaid drama during the planning of a wedding, my ladies continue to insist that everyone pulled their weight, got along and made the entire process a pleasure for each other.

Sabrina did an AWESOME job setting up our ceremony site. She's a newlywed too!

It’s always scary when you bring different women from different parts of your life together, but they came together seamlessly and it showed. I was thrilled because all I wanted was happy friends.

If I could give you any advice, it’s this:

Love and appreciate your bridesmaids and every single person who helps you with your wedding. They are doing so much and at the very least, they deserve to know how much you care.

Think about your wedding decisions and how it affects your friends. Demands like expensive dresses, shoes, hair, makeup, bachelorette weekends, can cause strain on a group of women.

Christine read a beautiful poem.

Trust me. It is entirely possible for none of your bridesmaids to get their hair and makeup done and still look absolutely gorgeous.

And at the very least, don’t be a bitch. Seriously. Just don’t do it.

Lex, did, well, everything. She performed the ceremony, picked up breakfast at 7am, helped set up the ceremony site, EmCee'd and kept everyone organized.

Stress can get the best of us and when you see it coming, relax and remember why you are getting married in the first place. Don’t take it out on your friends. Don’t be bossy, demanding or insulting. If you want your friends to last past your wedding day, take your bad mood out on a punching bag at the gym.

To the amazing women in my life who helped make my day so, so wonderful and amazing, I thank you.


10 thoughts on “Girls Who Rock

  1. PERFECT timing for me!! I’ve been stressing about who to ask and how to bring together girls from all the different aspects of my life. I’ve been in so many weddings, I can’t follow the rule of “Be in my wedding, since I was in yours.” Plus I don’t feel that close to some of them any more. I’m afraid to hurt anyone’s feelings if they’re not in the wedding. Also, I’m stressing about choosing the dresses because I don’t want them to pay a huge amount like I’ve had to in the past–it’s not fun, especially when you don’t wear the dress again (you might say you will be able to, but I know my group of friends–they won’t). I was pretty close to just having my sister as Matron-of-Honor and leaving it at that, but I know i need a support system more than just her. Thanks for the post!

    • Picking your bridesmaids shouldn’t be something that you dread. Your real friends will understand your reasons for why you made the decisions that you did. My friend and I were a little worried about how the group was going to take the split. I mean, how do you chose between friends? But, they understood we did it so that we wouldn’t have to double burden them. It ended up working really, really well with no hard feelings anywhere. Having an honest conversation with them is key.

      And dude, totally don’t stress about the dresses. You can definitely find affordable dresses these days. I kind of wish I did more research into the dress thing because I felt like my friends paid too much. And their dresses were only $125 (sans my sister who found a new dress for like $30 2 weeks before the wedding). They were thrilled with them and one even wore it again, but knowing what I know now, I probably would have have given them more options than just David’s Bridal.

  2. The fact that you let me choose a new dress a couple of weeks before your wedding says enough about the type of bride you were – while everyone in the party was easy going, so were you, which was a huge part of why everything was so drama-free. You really do have a bunch of awesome friends, and it makes me sad to think I won’t have that when I get married – the people I’m “close” (I use that term loosely) to live wayyy out of state, and I feel like it would be more of a burden to ask them to be a part of my wedding than an honor. So, you’re definitely lucky.

    • Awe thanks. : )

      : ( I am extremely lucky to have such amazing friends. I had friends that lived out of state and they were still able to be a part of the wedding. It takes some extra planning and you can’t expect too much from them because of the distance. And you’d be surprised how much they would want to help from afar. I think you have some really great people in your life now and those people will still be there when you get married. That’s what matters. Love you!

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