I know the ladies in my bridal party know how much I love them and how much I appreciate everything they did for me during the planning of my wedding.
But sometimes I want to reach out and make sure the REALLY know how much I love them.
Growing up, I wasn’t popular or well liked. I had few friends I could count on and trust. Many teased me to my face and behind my back.
But, as I grew up I began to acquire a group of really awesome people in my life. So many, in fact, that if I had asked them all to be in my wedding, I’d have a much bigger group. I’m so incredibly thankful for this. We’ve had our drama, breakdowns and annoyances, but overall, I have some really awesome ladies in my life.
Even those that weren’t in my wedding played a major roll. They officiated, read poems and set up our ceremony site to make it comfortable for our guests. Even though they didn’t have a “title” they were still there to help where ever needed. For that, I’m extra thankful.
(If you’re wondering why I didn’t include some of these women in my bridal party, it was mainly because of logistics. With two girls getting married in the same year, it would be unfair to our friends to ask them to do double bridesmaid duty. We decided to split the group and because my friends are AWESOME and not catty bitches, it worked out really well.)
My bridesmaids banded together and threw me an awesome bridal shower and bachelorette party and wanted to do so much more than I would let them.
And most importantly, they did this all without drama.
While most bridesmaids know well enough not to tell a bride there is bridesmaid drama during the planning of a wedding, my ladies continue to insist that everyone pulled their weight, got along and made the entire process a pleasure for each other.
It’s always scary when you bring different women from different parts of your life together, but they came together seamlessly and it showed. I was thrilled because all I wanted was happy friends.
If I could give you any advice, it’s this:
Love and appreciate your bridesmaids and every single person who helps you with your wedding. They are doing so much and at the very least, they deserve to know how much you care.
Think about your wedding decisions and how it affects your friends. Demands like expensive dresses, shoes, hair, makeup, bachelorette weekends, can cause strain on a group of women.
Trust me. It is entirely possible for none of your bridesmaids to get their hair and makeup done and still look absolutely gorgeous.
And at the very least, don’t be a bitch. Seriously. Just don’t do it.
Stress can get the best of us and when you see it coming, relax and remember why you are getting married in the first place. Don’t take it out on your friends. Don’t be bossy, demanding or insulting. If you want your friends to last past your wedding day, take your bad mood out on a punching bag at the gym.
To the amazing women in my life who helped make my day so, so wonderful and amazing, I thank you.