Former brides will tell you that at some point during their planning process, they come down with what’s known as Bride Brain.
Bride Brain is when your planning has gotten to the point that all you can think about is your wedding. Your brain is going a mile a minute and you become so overwhelmed that you can barely function as a normal human being.
Take my bachelorette weekend home. You already read that I forgot my pants at home, but here are some of the other things I forgot.
- My checkbook — Thankfully, Chuck and I got some cash for the weekend, so I we didn’t have to run to the bank before paying for our marriage license. Ya know, that thing that makes this whole thing legal.
- My pants — At the end of the night, my bridesmaid had to yell after me as I headed toward my friend’s car because I had forgotten the pants I had come to the hotel in prior to realizing I forgot my going out pants. So, I forgot pants twice.
- My contact case with solution — When my friend Tommy came to pick a few of us up and drive us drunk ladies home, he had to bring some contact solution in a plastic container. Unfortunately, he didn’t have a spare case. So, I poured that solution into two shot glasses when I got to my bridesmaid’s house.
- My keys — When I landed in Baltimore, I got an awesome message from my mother informing me that I had left my keys in the guest room back in New York. Yup. My keys. The keys to my car, which was parked in the parking garage and the keys to my apartment. Thankfully, my cat sitter and my friend Melissa are neighbors so the sitter dropped my spare apartment key off at Melissa’s house and her husband was able to come pick me up at the airport at nearly 11:00 at night. The car stayed in the garage one more night since Chuck was flying home the next day. Chuck had a layover from LA in New York so his parents, while picking up his brother who was on the same flight, were able to give Chuck the forgotten keys.
- My shoes — I realized two days before heading in for my dress fitting that I forgot my wedding-day shoes in New York. I had to use a similar pair for the fitting and hope that it looks OK.
I’ve also had trouble sleeping. At night my mind races with minor, but important, details. For example, we’re doing a sand ceremony, but we have no container for the sand that is going to represent our love. So, I would lie awake at night wondering where I could get a sand ceremony set three weeks before my wedding (I’ve since come up with a pretty nifty idea involving ribbon, glue and an old salsa jar.). Because I have trouble sleeping, I also have trouble getting up in the morning. Instead of getting up at a decent hour before my day of work, I’ve been waking up at the same time I should start working. This has resulted in me starting my day in my pajamas and showering later. (If you’re new to the blog, I work from home, so it isn’t as weird as it sounded)
Then there’s the constant distraction while I’m actually trying to work. I will make one phone call or send one email before finding myself updating the guest list, Googling directions to the nearest JoAnn Fabric or reading a wedding-related post on one of my favorite blogs. I’ve actually apologized to all of my editors and asked them for their patience while I attempt to be a productive human being so close to my wedding. Thankfully, they’re all wonderful people and have been giving me a break.
I’ve tried to combat Bride Brain by writing everything, and I mean everything, down. I generally do, because I know I tend to forget things if I don’t. But, I’ve been extra anal about writing things down. I’ve also tried not to let it upset me. I understand that I have a TON of things on my plate right now and it’s OK to be overwhelmed and slightly insane.
If it hasn’t hit you yet, it will.
You’ve been warned.