Quitting and Cutting

After about nine months of being incredibly unhappy with my day job, I put in my two weeks notice.

It will probably turn out to be the best and worst decision I make this year. I’m not completely unemployed though. I have started working as a tutor at the same tutoring center that Chuck works at and I will have a fairly steady stream of writing assignments coming from the Raleigh Public Record and Long Beach Patch.

Despite my employment if we thought we were broke before, we’re dead broke now. While there isn’t much left to sacrifice in our everyday lives, we’ve been going through the wedding budget like a scalpel happy Republican (Sorry, I listen to way too much NPR.). Even with our wedding there isn’t much left we can cut, but things are going.

We’ve canceled our second photographer and I canceled my manicure and pedicure. Though, once I put the word out to my friends that I was looking for volunteers to paint my nails, my wonderful friend, whom I’ve known since kindergarten, offered to treat me to some pampering. This is a very public thank you to her : )

I’m returning the $80 shoes that I bought and will probably wear a pair of shoes that I already own. They are awesome and perfect so I’m not too upset about it. The only reason why I went looking for a new pair of shoes is because I’m getting married on the grass and these have a slight heel. I still plan on featuring the new shoes and the old shoes in a future Tuesday Shoesday post.

My plans to splurge on my bridesmaids have gone out the window, but I will continue with some low-cost ideas I’ve got floating around in my head. And unfortunately, our favor donation will have to be cut down as well.

We will no longer have North Carolina wine served as our signature drink and I wrote an awkward email to my cousin asking that the cake he’s making be his family’s wedding gift (Of course he said he wouldn’t have accepted my money, but I had to email anyway).

I’m OK with cutting back since none of these details really mattered to me. The only thing I wish I could still do is spoil my bridesmaids. They’ve been so, so wonderful and if I could, I would shower them with gifts. And while it’s not wedding related, the decrease in our funds also won’t allow me to spoil my new friece (Friend Niece. Daughter of one of your BFFs who isn’t your niece, but grows up calling you Aunt Whatever anyway), Alyssa Marie, who was born last weekend. YAY!!

With one of the biggest expenses of my life quickly heading toward me, it probably wasn’t a great idea to significantly cut my income, but from the moment that I gave notice, I’ve been so much happier. Chuck has been endlessly supportive and reminds me that I made the right decision any time I have doubts. Like many moments in our marriage, things will be hard, but with enough support we’ll get through it.

Maybe that’s the best way to start a marriage. Things can only get better from here.


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9 thoughts on “Quitting and Cutting

  1. 😦 for the stressing & cutting out the little things. 🙂 for quitting that God-awful job.

    Ultimately, while the little things are nice, it won’t effect (grammar police?) the overwhelming happiness you feel on the big day.

    I got married 9 months pregnant in flip flops & a $68 dress (made by one Leighanne Littrell mind you). My brother and my hand-me-down Cannon Powershot provided the only pictures were have (my husband DID remember our newer Nikon, however, he failed to put the fully charged battery in as we ran out the door to Town Hall).

    Do I wish I had more & better pictures, yeah… but ultimately, it doesn’t matter. My brother scored great shots of our first kiss, my exuding happiness, and even my unexpected happy tears.

    My ‘wedding’ cost $40 (marriage license)…(this is why we are going a little bit over the top with TJ’s christening) and I’m still happy and married.

    With your priorities && morals, you’ll be far happier with that money in your pocket.. it’s all about the bigger picture.

    CAN’T WAIT to see how BEAUTIFUL your day will be… beautiful because it’s YOURS!

  2. Wow Ariella. I admire you and think you are very brave! You know my email so don’t hesitate if you need someone to freak out at, just talk to or run something by. I know in my heart your day will be amazing. You know how to work it out and we are all here for you! If there is anything I can do, I want to help!

    • Thanks, Jen. I most definitely will. And when are we going to see some wedding day pictures, huh??? I’m dying over here!

  3. Good for you to have the bravery to quit! While I know you’ll be uber-stressed with the budget, you won’t be as stressed as you were hating your job and hating everyday. Something will come around–maybe you can even pick up another part-time job to bring in a little extra cash? I hate that you’re cutting back more, but the memories will still be the same, I’m sure.

  4. Ariella, this is great news! And I understand your panic. At the end of last summer, when I was still in grad school (AKA living on student loans and meager freelancing income), my fiance called me one day when I was interning and said, “I have to quit my job.” I took a deep breath and told him to do it. He left his soul-crushing, slightly-diabolical office job because they were essentially asking him to focus 120% of his attention on it and abandon his real passion, the theatre company he has built and sustained from nothing. And we collectively said no to that kind of life. Since then, he’s had to work some crappy temp jobs, and we have way less money. But its worth it. He’s much happier. I know you will feel the same way. My dad used to say, “You can always make more money. You can’t make more time.” A good motto to live by. Congrats on your brave and awesome jump.

    • Thanks, Megan! I’m so glad that things worked out for your fiance, too. Sometimes a little bit of struggling makes us happier in the end.

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