I bet you’re thinking, “Weren’t you suppose to be on a blogging break?”
I woke up yesterday morning to this amazing comment left by Alicia, who is the great lady behind The Charity Wedding. If you’re not reading it, well, you should be. She left me this message that totally put everything into perspective and just reminded me why I started doing this in the first place. If that wasn’t enough of a kick in the ass, Jacin, over at Lovely Little Details, another awesome blog that if you’re not reading you totally should be, replied to my blog with this post about keeping your head in the right place during your wedding planning. If you scroll down you’ll see a comment from me. How quickly I forget my empowering words.
So with that, I’m back. I still have a TON of stuff to work on, but I’m going to take the pressure off myself and just remember that I started this to have fun and do what I love, which is write. And if it’s Tuesday and I still don’t have a post, ya’ll know it’s not because I’m not dedicated but it’s because I’m paying the bills, jogging on the treadmill or just relaxing (read: drinking) after a draining day at the office.
As most of you know I’ve been suffering from a little dress regret. Tomorrow, my friend and I will head to Burlington to do a little dress browsing. I decided that it was time I tried on the dress I’ve been thinking about since before Chuck was ever in my life. Thankfully Jes was up for this little adventure. I even told my mother, who I was sure was going to scold me for going dress shopping when I haven’t even paid her back for the one I already bought. Her reaction was supportive and told me that she always thought a short dress would be more appropriate for my wedding anyway. Well, OK then.
To make our lives a little easier on Saturday, I gave Bridal Mart a call and was disappointed to hear that they didn’t have the dress in stock. I told the operator I’d still be swinging by and hung up to call the next store on the list.
I asked the woman who answered the phone if she could tell me if they carried a particular Alfred Angelo dress. She went on to say that she is just booked solid for this weekend and probably wouldn’t be able to see me for the next few weeks.
That’s great, lady. I just want to know if you carry this dress and then I’ll decide if I want to make an appointment.
She asks me when the wedding is and when I tell her my date she begins to scold me in that, sweet ‘ol southern way, telling me I should have bought my dress months ago. It takes four to 16 weeks to order a dress, she reminded me.
I made the mistake of telling her I already had a dress. I told her this because I clearly wasn’t stupid enough to wait until 4 months before the wedding to just start my dress shopping. But what if I just got engaged last weekend and I wanted to get married in June?
She then told me to check out other stores in Raleigh and if they didn’t have it then, “Just wear the dress you have, sweetheart. Save your money!” She closed the conversation with that she was way too busy with customers that were actually going to buy.
Not for nothing, but how the hell do you know any of these other customers are going to buy? And if you had the dress in stock, I would have tried it on and if it looked fantastic I would have whipped out my Visa right there. So glad to hear that business is going so well in the middle of a recession that you can afford to turn down customers. Seriously, a store in New York would have never turned down my cash.
And maybe it’s because I’m from New York that I feel that she was completely rude and not possibly looking out for my best interests. She was clearly telling me that she couldn’t handle the job and it wasn’t worth risking having an angry bride on her hands. In general I would appreciate information like that, but I was annoyed right off the bat that even now, I have NO idea if she even has the dress in her shop.
Well, after that I called some other stores that were listed on the Alfred Angelo store locator. It’s definitely not updated very often because most of the numbers had been disconnected. With only like five options in the Raleigh area, I decided that it just wasn’t meant to be. Alfred Angelo responded to a Tweet I had posted proclaiming my disappointment. I emailed them my story and they said they were looking into it. I really appreciated that so kudos to Alfred Angelo!
Either way, tomorrow I’m heading off to the store with Jes. If nothing else, it’ll be a great girls day out.