Bachelorette Lessons


As a bride, it’s unlikely that you will be planning your own bachelorette party, but there may be a point in time when you are planning one for someone else.

Some things that I’ve picked up from being a bachelorette guest:

Costs matter

The best parties I’ve been to were the ones that were planned with budget in mind. As much as we’d all love to shell out hundreds of dollars on our BFFL, sometimes we just aren’t in the financial spot to do so. Having a budget-friendly evening keeps money off the guests’ minds allowing them to let loose and have a good time.


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Split the night/day into parts

For example, you start off with a pole dancing class, followed by dinner then dancing at the local club. By doing this, it allows the party guests  to choose what works best for their budget and their schedule.

Maybe the bride’s cousin has a baby and can’t spend the entire afternoon and night partying, but she can make it to the pole dancing class. Or, suppose there is a bridesmaid with a wonky work schedule who will be able to meet up later for dancing. It lets everyone be a part of the festivities without having to sacrifice huge amounts of money or time that they just might not have.

Have a plan

Organization is key! Nothing kills a night more than 20 minutes of, “what’s happening now?” “Where are we going?” “Who’s driving?” Figure out all that stuff before the party begins, but be flexible enough for spur of the moment changes. If you can, provide all of the party guests with an information sheet that has addresses, phone numbers and any other information you feel might help the night go much more smoothly.

Splitting the bill

If you’re going out to dinner, make paying the bill as easy as possible. The girls who organized the last bach party I went to arranged it so that each guest had a separate check. The bride’s meal was put on the MOH’s bill and we gave her money. It was beautiful and genius. It saved time and aggravation that often comes with going out with a large number of people. It also saves the bride from being in the awkward position of witnessing the craziness that will ensue.  Unless you are going someplace really obscure, most restaurants have computers that are capable of doing this quickly and easily. Let the manager know your plans when you make the group reservation.

At the very least, do your non-drinkers a solid and put the booze on a separate tab. No one wants to pay for Drunky McDrunkface’s top shelf martinis when all she ordered was a soda because she’s doing the group a favor by driving your drunk asses all over town.

Research prix fixed

Prix fixed menus can be a great way to solve the splitting the check issue, but take note as to what comes on that menu. $50 for an entree and unlimited drinks sounds super to Drunky McDrunkface, who is going to down her weight in margaritas, but it’s not fun for anyone that isn’t a booze hound. This is especially true if entrees generally run under $25. The more options it includes for the money, the better. I went to one bach party that for $40 we got appetizers, salad, an entree, dessert and pitchers of sangria.


And most importantly,

Leave the drama at home.





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